Ive had to come to terms with that.

One of the conditions was to make sure google photos etc. auto backup options were off so nothing ends up in AI training data but at a certain point I cant personally inspect everyones phones to see if theyve opted out of apples auto opt in photo scanning and shit like that.

It gets tiring to say “hang on wait, have you got XYZ disabled” every time before someone wants to take their own photos, which I would love if people just used their brains in the first place.

The most reasonable thing I can do is set ground rules like secure communication channels and no social media posts etc. and especially no AI but I suspect these rules have been broken at some point.

She complained about not being pestered for updates constantly?

Wow, some people are just… wow.

Thank you for the validation

One response I got was “Im not installing one of your dodgy apps”

This came from someone who knows I self host and am big on security / privacy.

Only logic I can pull from that is they are corpo pilled into thinking good/secure things cant exist without a megacorp and a cost attached to them? I dont know it took me by surprise and genuinely pissed me off for a good few minutes.

Although frustrating, it is incredibly liberating to drop a contact line and delete fb.

My thoughts are if you can use facebook to message people, you can use signal, a simpler app by every standard. My 80yo grandma was one of the first across.

Bonus point of filtering out people that never reached out to you initially. They have all the details to reach you, put the ball in their court.

Good luck!

It is a painful road to get people to use even signal.

I basically gave ultimatums that:

A) I will only be contactable via signal / sms / call / email (signal obviously being the easiest option)

B) I would only send pics of my kid over signal

Family changed straight away because they wanted to see pics of kid.

A couple friends changed to signal but never really used it. Then after trying to organise an event over email they conceded that it would be easier on signal, while giving me shit for it, then admitting after using it that its good, while still giving me shit for it.

Blows my mind that these people will download a random spyware riddled fast food app for a chance at a free chips but then when its one of the most useful, reputable and secure communication apps you can get its “I dont want to have so many random apps on my phone”

Make it make sense please.

Curious as to your situation?